"Unfortunately in most cases, only one person in the relationship feels this way and the other is unsure about the strength of the relationship."It makes sense, especially if you or your partner has been single for a while."It sometimes takes a while for a person to give up their profile on a dating site, as they also are removing all their messages, contacts and potential for one person," Van Hochman says.
I’m not interested in dating anyone besides you right now and I’m ready to shut down my online dating profile to get to know you better. ” In this short conversation, you simply state how you feel about him (without any false promises of the future), and you also let him know what you want from him.
Now it’s his turn turn to let you know what he wants. If he says he’s not ready to shut down his profile, will you walk away?
"If you both want to continue dating each other after three months, then you should use the next three months to decide if you want to be monogamous." Go slow.
There's no reason to press fast-forward, especially if you're really into this person."If it seems like a long time, it’s because this is what people who are serious about finding 'the one' do: They take the relationships seriously and don’t jump into something that starts fast, and ends on a crash and burn note." Slow and steady wins the race here. "When you mutually decide to be exclusive with each other, sit down together and delete both your profiles at the same time." You'll take the step together — and you'll know absolutely that your partner has deleted their profile, and they will know the same.
When you find out your partner is still on a dating site, you may begin to wonder if he is cheating, has a fear of missing out (FOMO), or, just isn’t that into you. Never good news to discover, but it must have come from somewhere.
These are a few common scenarios: A friend: Your friend who’s active on dating sites came across your boyfriend’s profile and told you about it.You need to be clear about that before you have the conversation.Remember that a guy may take longer to shut down his profile, even when you are exclusive. If you know that he’s logging into Our Time.com, that means that you’re logging in as well. If you want him off the sites, you’ll need to close down your profile as well.Just because he’s online doesn’t mean he’s dating anyone else. xo Sandy What’s the nice way to say- so if you like me (only) so much, what are you doing on our time?But you do need to be sure you’re on the same page in order for you to feel valued. So, here are a few tips for a successful conversation: You need to bring up the topic somehow. If you went onto his laptop to snoop around and came across an active profile, be honest about it. Set the tone for honesty and you’ll have a respectful conversation.