The idea of going out on a date without the comforting blanket of alcohol to boost your confidence can seem intimidating.
But we want to show that you can go out there sober(er) with confidence.
All of these activities should get you in a positive frame of mind for the date ahead.
When you get home at the end of the night, try and think of three positive things you learnt from the date.
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It also doesn’t do wonders for your coordination, which can be a problem for the notably clumsy and absent-minded.
Alcohol is also increasing your chances of hooking up with someone you aren’t actually that interested in. You can still hook up sober, but you’re less likely to forget to practise safe sex.
However when you’re going out with someone for the first time, it’s a good idea to keep a clear head. If you know you’re going to have to stick it out sober, you’re also more likely to hold out for dates with people you feel an actual connection with.
Sure, you want to make the best possible impression, but you also want to make accurate judgements about your date as well. Likewise, you may think that the drunk you is confident and charming but really, the drunk you is just… And if it does not go to plan, and you’re stuck making sober small talk about woodworking (not an innuendo) for the next two hours?
I have a friend who takes first dates climbing, because he thinks it’s a good test of character.
If you really do just want to sit and chat for a couple of hours, meet for coffee, tea or hot chocolate.
On the whole it might be worth dealing with a little awkwardness.