I ended up swiping right on a handful of guys (signaling to them that I was interested), and most of them were matches. He had a good job, was kind of a foodie, and really into sports. The next guy, “Mike,” was pretty cute, a single dad, divorced, and also a few years older than me.
Lots of my friends are divorced single parents, but not many have been single from the beginning, like me. I’m also really happy just being a mom, so naturally I’ve been hesitant to start dating again. Once she was born, I felt like I had found my total joy and purpose in life. What business did I have dating while my daughter was still so young? If you consider that I’ve been single since two days before I found out I was pregnant (when her dad and I broke up), however, I’ve been single for well over a year.
It makes sense that a single woman in her thirties would be curious about dating after that long.
We could have kept talking for hours if he hadn’t had to go pick up his son. About five minutes into our second date I could tell he wanted to kiss me, and I wanted to kiss him back.
We went to a restaurant on the beach and strolled along the shore afterward holding hands. One of the first things somebody warned me about before I had my daughter was the potential to get mastitis or thrush and how you should always wash your hands before you touch your nipple.
And, the bonus is that you’ll get on my good side, too. That means he won’t be taking you to the mall, the movies or out to dinner on a school night. Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways!
was over Bloody Marys and fried potatoes at Vinegar Hill House in Brooklyn. We bonded about our New England roots, and delighted in throwback slang, like ‘wicked’ and ‘grinder.’ I insisted he take the leftovers home. Alas, transitioning into a more conventional family structure was about to be one of the hardest decisions of my life. I guess I didn’t belong in that Facebook group anymore. What would it really mean if she started to call him Daddy?
Neither one of us left with any hard feelings, but I feel a lot more confident to continue dating now.
Since becoming a mom, I’ve shed a lot of insecurity, and my new outlook is serving me well in my dating life.
I was dying to see who was using it in the small southern town I live in now. But then I got some messages from guys I would actually consider dating.